Divorce an unhappy time for all affected by it
by Dennis Culbreth
Feb 15, 2014 | 1784 views | 0 0 comments | 57 57 recommendations | email to a friend | print
Dennis Culbreth
Dennis Culbreth
They were the cutest couple in the church. Recent graduates of college back in Oklahoma, they married and moved to Dallas, Texas, and immediately got involved in the church where I served as youth minister. They were a great couple who served as lay youth leaders in our church.

For fun, the teens would call them “HimKim” and “SheKim” because they were both named “Kim.” She was a nurse at a local hospital, and he was climbing the corporate ladder.

Everything was going well for them, until one day, after several years of marriage, he abruptly announced that he had been having an affair with a woman at work and demanded a divorce.

As one would expect, she was devastated and never came back to church. The teens were shocked and demoralized. How could this couple, who seemed to have it all together, end up divorcing? How could he do that to his sweet wife? We never saw either of them again. But the devastating effects rippled through that youth group for many months as they dealt with the anger and disappointment of losing two people who they loved and admired.

We have all heard it said that the only person who wins in a divorce is the lawyer. I can’t speak for the lawyer, but I have seen the destructive waves that issue from divorce and the lasting damage that ensues. I have seen the children that blame themselves for what has happened to their mommy and daddy. I have seen families ripped apart and financially ruined by this act.

Families would be so much better without divorce ever touching them. But, it happens.

When a couple gets married, the minister shares these vows when them, “for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, until death do us part.”

You see, God’s desire is that we marry, stay faithful to our spouse, work through our differences and stay married until one lays the other into the arms of God.

Unfortunately, marriages fail way too often for various reasons. Sometimes one gets bored with their spouse. Sometimes it is because of unfaithfulness. Sometimes financial strains or the death of a child puts more pressure on a marriage than it can stand, and it crumbles. Sometimes it is because of alcohol or drug abuse.

Unfortunately, there may be physical abuse that is taking place. There are so many reasons, but it can’t take away the pain and suffering that ensues. Divorce hurts!

During this time of incredible pain and suffering, there is a place where you can go and get help. DivorceCare, a ministry offered by Jasper’s First Baptist Church, is there to help you walk through this time of suffering and pain.

“DivorceCare is a network of 13,000-plus churches that is equipped to provide divorce support groups. This program features biblical teaching for recovering from divorce or separation.”

The best thing about DivorceCare is that while it is hard for family and friends to understand or fully sympathize with you as you go through divorce or separation, the group at DivorceCare understand what you have gone through. They understand how you feel, and they know how to deal with your hurt.

DivorceCare is a support group that meets weekly at 1503 5th Ave. S., in Jasper (next door to the Jewish Temple) in a little white house owned by Jasper’s First Baptist Church. They meet on Sunday nights from 5 until 6:30 p.m. and are equipped to help you deal with your anger, depression, loneliness, financial survival, kids, forgiveness, reconciliation and other issues that a person who has been separated or divorced deals with in his or her life.

If you, or someone you know, has been divorced or separated, why not attend DivorceCare?

If you have any questions, please contact Chris Nuss at 205-300-4857, or by email at cnuss230@gmail.com.

Dr. Dennis R. Culbreth is the Senior Pastor at Jasper’s First Baptist Church; www.jaspersfbc.org